Being able to ask for what we need in “simple, positive requests” is a vital part of setting clear boundaries. Boundaries that are a reactionary backlash to pain or disappointment can leave us isolated from healthy relationships because they keep everyone out instead of just those that do not honor your boundaries. In reality, when you are helping others set clear boundaries, you are also companioning them.
In this video, Brene Brown jokes about boundaries that keep others out:
Setting Clear Boundaries with Others
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What examples do you have of setting clear boundaries? Are there any videos, songs, memes, photos, or quotes that are relevant to the essence of setting clear boundaries? How can you distinguish the difference between a reactionary punishment and a taking care of yourself when enforcing boundaries?
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I usually talk about being woken up in the morning by a fiance’s phone calls because it shows how I took care of myself without seeking to punish. I find all of Brene Brown’s info on trust to be helpful in setting clear boundaries.
How would you teach this differently with a small group vs a large group? How would you make this shorter or longer based on how much time you have? Does anything need to be adjusted for younger, older, family, co-workers, etc?
I may not show a video and I may give some time for people to try a boundary of their own. With people under 10 years old, I would do a craft where they make a box with virtues on the outside that protects their boundary that is written on the inside.